That time we were on vacation in Mexico, and we started making out in the jacuzzi? ” Prod him along by asking questions like, “do you remember what happened next?
You get to hear your boyfriend’s responses in real time, which makes it feel less isolating.
Plus it frees up your hands to do other things in the moment!
Q: My boyfriend is moving to another state for a job opportunity that’s too good to turn down.
We’re hoping it will be temporary (maybe only a year).
Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics.
This week’s topic: How to have video and phone sex when you're in a long distance relationship.
We’ve had a good sex life thus far, but I’m apprehensive about how the switch to long distance will affect our sex life. It’s jarring to go from seeing each other regularly to relying on technology for the vast majority of your interactions.
I’m a little bit shy and haven’t been vocal about sex historically, so phone and video chat sex sound intimidating. It’s great that you have an established relationship, so hopefully you’ll be prepared to communicate about the ups and downs of the transition.
For an easy place to start, or a smooth way to transition into dirty talk, bring up of your favorite memories of having sex together.
Say something like, “you know what just popped into my head today?
Make sure to put a note saying “Private” or “For later” in the subject so he doesn’t open it at an inopportune time.