Without proving,you will live in one endless dilemma. You know, Victoria,just tell us,for the man: How’s for a woman which has a relationship with two man?
As someone that’s lived through this scenario, I’ll start out by saying that you’re missing the point. Perhaps your girlfriend suddenly added a password to her phone.
Perhaps she’s been spending time with friends more often, or is being secretive and vague when you ask her questions. Your girlfriend goes to the bathroom, your eyes laser beam over to her cell phone, and before you know it, you’re scrolling through her text messages, looking for a reason you feel a knife twisting in your gut every time she says she’s going out with friends.
It was scary to be honest and vulnerable but it made me feel a lot more at ease about the situation and things never became a problem. Yes, it can definitely be scary opening up and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, but in the end it’s always worth it.
By being open and honest, you gave your ex-girlfriend the opportunity to approach the situation with more awareness.
If they just get angry and defensive, that’s cause for concern. If you confront her without evidence she won’t be silly telling the truth , IF,is a guy in her life which she has some certain feelings for him. Everyone trusting in their guts,but if you cannot prove nothing,even if is true,you cannot win in front of her.
The bottom line is that if you approach them from a place of open honesty, you’ll be able to determine a lot based on their reaction. She will keep you in stand-by until she will realize which feelings are more stronger. How they’re sayin: is not what you sayin is what you can prove.
If you have that feeling and you can’t find anything then maybe have the talk. The way you feel is evidence enough that something is off.